“How to go from Heartbreak to an Improved Version of Yourself"

Oh man! Falling in love is wonderful, I love falling in love, I'm a hopeless romantic. I love the feeling of butterflies in my stomach every time I think of that special someone, or when I see them, best feeling ever! Right?

BUT, When all that is OVER, and the butterflies fly away to Neverland, Is cry me a river time! No more good morning, and good night texts, baby I miss you, I love you, nothing! No more texts, or phone calls from boo, babe, bae, whatever! It doesn't matter no more, because it's over, and now the feeling is similar to a sharp knife cutting your heart into pieces, ugh, the agony is real!

Now you need to deal with mixed emotions that try to play with your head, and make you over analyze the situation. In some cases emotions can make you act pretty psycho if you allow them to get the best of you. Don't allow that to happen, because you might end up in prison, or in shame ville forever, and trust me, it is not worth it!

Instead of wrapping yourself in agony, become the best version of yourself, make strength your best friend, and let fate take its course.

Okay, I know what you're thinking, "It's easier said than done", I agree! It is not that easy to get over a heartbreak, I been there, done that. If you haven't experienced the pain, and hurt of a heartbreak, you better take notes just in case it happens, but I hope it doesn't, good vibes only! Peace, love and happiness, yup that would be nice.

Back to reality, let's get to the solution of how to go from, OMG this hurts, to thank God I'm better off, because if things didn't workout between you and the individual who broke your heart, chances are he/she was not the right person for you, and sooner or later that hurtful event was going to take place. Real talk people! One day you'll look back and say, oh that's why it didn't workout with, uhhh... what's his/her name? By then you probably won't remember their name, because you will be in a better place in life with whom you were meant to be, or in a position in life where that person would have not been a good fit for you. That's when the saying, "I dodged a bullet" takes place.

Let's say you were the one to be blamed for the breakup, and there was no turning back, and now you are heart broken because you lost that special someone. Well, too bad! Just kidding, no one is perfect, we all make mistakes, but this is a good time for you to reflect and learn from the situation so you won't continue making the same mistake over, and over again. Playing and hurting others will never bring you happiness or fulfillment. Work on your weakness, and empower the qualities that make you a better person... Maybe that special someone might realize that you've changed and might give you another chance, and if not, move on, at least now you have a better chance at love, and a healthier relationship with someone else. Remember, "Treat others how you want to be treated" that is the golden rule, don't forget!

Here are some DON'Ts & DO's when heartbreak strikes:

* Don't get drunk: Getting drunk will increase the pain, and hurt. No bueno situation! Alcohol makes you do things that you possibly wouldn't if you were sober. Being under the influence of any substance when heartbroken can lead to negative scenarios.

* DO keep yourself away from any substance that will decrease your abilities and strengths. Stay strong and healthy, and only feed your body and mind positivity.

* Don't use someone else to get over a heartbreak: Using another person to get over a heartbreak will only make you feel worse, because chances are you still have feelings for the individual who broke your heart.

* DO give yourself time to heal: Take on new activities, or hobbies that make you happy, and fulfilled. This is a time of growth, and self improvement that will lead to attracting better into your life. Go on a vacation, explore, learn, exercise, start loving YOU more.

* Don't fear never finding love again: That's just your emotions playing mind games.

* DO continue to believe in LOVE: LOVE is the strongest emotion we possess, and LOVE with the right person can be the most beautiful experience you'll ever encounter.

* Don't allow your emotions to get the best of you: Emotions during a heartbreak can become your worst enemies that can take you to a state of insanity, and depression.

* DO vent to a friend or someone you trust: Talking and sharing how you feel will allow you to express your emotions with those who care about you. Start a journal, write your feelings away, and track your progress. Talk to a professional, a counselor can guide you and help you understand your emotions.

* Don't walk around as a victim: Feeling sorry for yourself, or making others feel pity for you is not empowering.

* DO pickup yourself again, and know a heartbreak is part of life: We live, learn, and feel, that's human nature. A heartbreak is normal, life goes on... Stay strong, the pain is only temporary, eventually it will go away.

Never stop loving... Love yourself, love others, love life, find the meaning and purpose of your existence and make this journey one to remember!

Love you guys!

-Shelly M